Wednesday, October 27, 2010
Thursday, October 21, 2010
Stay Quiet or Not?
What is it with me? I can't quite figure it out. Whenever I step out of my comfort zone and write what's in my heart, somehow it doesn't turn out the way I had hoped.
A couple of years ago, I wrote a blog talking about how people treat one another. It was basically how today's society doesn't seem to really care about others anymore. You can go here to read it. I wrote another post the following day trying to explain my point a little better....click here if you want to read that one. In general, if you really look at today's society, everyone is in it for themselves. Compassion and mercy seem to be almost nonexistent.
So anyway, someone that I was an acquaintance with read that particular blog and because of some unfortunate events going on in their life that I knew nothing about at the time, assumed that I was writing that blog about them. And publicly decided to trash me, my husband and my children. My hair was even attacked! AHHH! I was hurt very badly and couldn't quite understand how someone who basically knew nothing about my life except through gossip could so easily disregard mine and my family's life and feelings. Sadly through that ordeal, trust was lost and relationships were heavily damaged all because of me opening my heart on an issue that I felt like writing about. Most people would have retaliated and believe me, I wanted to, but my mom prayerfully advised me to just be quiet and even though the human side of me wanted to hurt those people just as much as they had hurt me, I chose not to. I did try to explain myself when confronted but it fell on deaf ears. I'm so thankful that my mom always taught me to be the bigger person (even though it is hard sometimes) and to let my actions always be honoring to the Lord. Thank you mom!
I don't like confrontation period. And the thought of it literally makes me shake, get extremely flushed and nervous. I think you can understand that I just don't have the type of personality that normally vocally disagrees with someone unless it's David (LOL). I don't usually on a day by day basis make it a point to cause a ruckus just for the sake of an argument.
Well yesterday, a friend of mine posted a link about the recent massive Graco stroller recall (StrollerGate 2010~HAHA). I took the time to read the article and even read an extra article that was also referenced. The article was written by someone who was basically saying that the parents of the children who were now deceased due to the strollers must have not read the instruction manual. Well, I disagreed with the article. I went through and read all of the comments that other people....moms....were leaving about the article. The comments were just hateful. I thought it was sad and really thought about if I should say something about the link that was posted. As I said before, I don't like to disagree or be confrontational but I decided to start writing anyway and ended up with a paragraph. Waay out of my comfort zone. I wasn't ugly at all. I didn't feel angry or anything like that as I was writing my comment. I just wanted to post a different viewpoint of the article.
In a very short version of what I wrote, I stated that I didn't think it was right for people and especially other moms to call the parents of the children who had died, stupid and irresponsible. I'm pretty sure the writer of the article had not contacted each of the individual parents to get their play by play of actions regarding the death of their children, so to assume that these parents didn't read the safety/instruction manual was wrong. Those of us that are moms all love our children with a love that is unexplainable and most of us would never purposefully hurt our children or put them in a position to be hurt and certainly not killed. NO parent is perfect and we have ALL made mistakes but that doesn't make us stupid and irresponsible parents.
My friend deleted the whole link....all comments included. I thought...Wow. Here I go waaaay out of my comfort zone and actually disagree with something (in a nice way) and it gets deleted. You can understand why I'm hesitant to express my feelings. It's ok though. I had to laugh. I actually wasn't mad that she deleted it. It's fine. It was her post. I'm not going to get all in a tizzy about it. I was just surprised, that's all. She's still my friend and it's ok that we disagree.
But I will tell you this....I don't think it's ok to call other moms stupid. We have one common goal and that is that we are moms and we love our kids with our whole heart. We may disagree with how each mom handles different situations, but it is never ok to judge someone and assume that they are not a good parent. We are all doing the best we can with whatever life situation God has allowed us to go through. We should be encouraging to each other and not tearing each other down.
So maybe I should just stay quiet you think? Seems as though when I really have something to write about, the outcome is almost not worth it. LOL! :)
A couple of years ago, I wrote a blog talking about how people treat one another. It was basically how today's society doesn't seem to really care about others anymore. You can go here to read it. I wrote another post the following day trying to explain my point a little better....click here if you want to read that one. In general, if you really look at today's society, everyone is in it for themselves. Compassion and mercy seem to be almost nonexistent.
So anyway, someone that I was an acquaintance with read that particular blog and because of some unfortunate events going on in their life that I knew nothing about at the time, assumed that I was writing that blog about them. And publicly decided to trash me, my husband and my children. My hair was even attacked! AHHH! I was hurt very badly and couldn't quite understand how someone who basically knew nothing about my life except through gossip could so easily disregard mine and my family's life and feelings. Sadly through that ordeal, trust was lost and relationships were heavily damaged all because of me opening my heart on an issue that I felt like writing about. Most people would have retaliated and believe me, I wanted to, but my mom prayerfully advised me to just be quiet and even though the human side of me wanted to hurt those people just as much as they had hurt me, I chose not to. I did try to explain myself when confronted but it fell on deaf ears. I'm so thankful that my mom always taught me to be the bigger person (even though it is hard sometimes) and to let my actions always be honoring to the Lord. Thank you mom!
I don't like confrontation period. And the thought of it literally makes me shake, get extremely flushed and nervous. I think you can understand that I just don't have the type of personality that normally vocally disagrees with someone unless it's David (LOL). I don't usually on a day by day basis make it a point to cause a ruckus just for the sake of an argument.
Well yesterday, a friend of mine posted a link about the recent massive Graco stroller recall (StrollerGate 2010~HAHA). I took the time to read the article and even read an extra article that was also referenced. The article was written by someone who was basically saying that the parents of the children who were now deceased due to the strollers must have not read the instruction manual. Well, I disagreed with the article. I went through and read all of the comments that other people....moms....were leaving about the article. The comments were just hateful. I thought it was sad and really thought about if I should say something about the link that was posted. As I said before, I don't like to disagree or be confrontational but I decided to start writing anyway and ended up with a paragraph. Waay out of my comfort zone. I wasn't ugly at all. I didn't feel angry or anything like that as I was writing my comment. I just wanted to post a different viewpoint of the article.
In a very short version of what I wrote, I stated that I didn't think it was right for people and especially other moms to call the parents of the children who had died, stupid and irresponsible. I'm pretty sure the writer of the article had not contacted each of the individual parents to get their play by play of actions regarding the death of their children, so to assume that these parents didn't read the safety/instruction manual was wrong. Those of us that are moms all love our children with a love that is unexplainable and most of us would never purposefully hurt our children or put them in a position to be hurt and certainly not killed. NO parent is perfect and we have ALL made mistakes but that doesn't make us stupid and irresponsible parents.
My friend deleted the whole link....all comments included. I thought...Wow. Here I go waaaay out of my comfort zone and actually disagree with something (in a nice way) and it gets deleted. You can understand why I'm hesitant to express my feelings. It's ok though. I had to laugh. I actually wasn't mad that she deleted it. It's fine. It was her post. I'm not going to get all in a tizzy about it. I was just surprised, that's all. She's still my friend and it's ok that we disagree.
But I will tell you this....I don't think it's ok to call other moms stupid. We have one common goal and that is that we are moms and we love our kids with our whole heart. We may disagree with how each mom handles different situations, but it is never ok to judge someone and assume that they are not a good parent. We are all doing the best we can with whatever life situation God has allowed us to go through. We should be encouraging to each other and not tearing each other down.
So maybe I should just stay quiet you think? Seems as though when I really have something to write about, the outcome is almost not worth it. LOL! :)
Tuesday, October 12, 2010
Happy Fall Ya'll!
I love the Fall time!! I love the colors, the smells, the cooler days and all that this time of the year brings with it!!
Our city decided not to participate in Fall ball this year so our boys are not playing baseball. They still have football and the League of Angels (special needs baseball) but not regular non competition baseball. I was kinda sad that they chose not to participate in fall ball but it really was a blessing in disguise. With Boogs breaking his collar bone he wouldn't have been able to finish out the season so that would have been a complete waste of money. The big thing is that we aren't constantly being rushed here and there 3 to 4 nights a week. Weeknights are always so hectic anyway with getting homework done, getting lunches ready for the next day, dinner, shower/baths, clothes picked out, story time, night night prayers etc. You know how it is! I'm sooo loving the fact that we are home at night as a family and can relax so to speak amidst all of the other things that have to be done.
Anyway, with the fall time comes the bringing out all of the decorations for the upcoming seasonal activities. I do decorate for fall but not halloween. Ok, so I do have a smiling light up pumpkin that I put on the front porch but that's only out until halloween and then it gets put up. But what I can't stand is all of the stupid scary halloween junk that people drape their properties with. I think it's ridiculous and does nothing but scare little kids. But to each his own I guess.
Anyway, back to fall....Last year when I packed up my fall wreath I realized that it was on it's last leg and would need to be re-done for this year. I mean, 10 years is long enough. The wreath itself is ok but the decorations on the wreath had faded and you could tell where the birds had been picking at the leaves and berries. It didn't look that bad but it was bad enough for me to think it needed to be redone. Soooo, last year during all of the Christmas season I kept an eye out for fall seasonal items that were on sale. I got a steal!! I bought lots of the fall foliage and things for dirt cheap. Some as cheap as 25cents!! You can really find some good stuff if you just look!
I wish I had taken a picture of the old wreath so you could see the difference but here is the wreath re-done.
I decided to keep the original bow on the wreath just because I'm lazy and don't feel like re-doing a bow right now. Yes, it is a little faded too, but it still compliments the wreath quite nicely so why mess with it? LOL!
My mom knows I like to make things like this. I have even made Christmas wreaths too, so she asked me if I would make her a cornucopia to put on her table for Fall/Thanksgiving.
Here is how it turned out. I love it!
If you are looking for some type of decoration to hang on the front door or place on your dining room table ,it's really quite easy. All you have to do is buy a wreath (if that's what you are looking for to put on the front door), look at all of the seasonal type of decorations and pick out your favorites, get a cute bow or make one with your favorite ribbon and basically just start hot gluing the pieces on your wreath. You might want to play with it first to see where you want the pieces to go. Put your bow on it and then WHALLA...you have your wreath. You can also use those hanging metal planters that you can find usually at any decorating type home store. I have used one of those for the spring time and put one of those green styrofoam floral arrangement blocks in the planter to hold the silk flowers in place in case of high winds or rain.
I'm no professional but I do enjoy making decorations like these. It just takes a little bit of imagination!
Happy Fall Ya'll!! :)
Our city decided not to participate in Fall ball this year so our boys are not playing baseball. They still have football and the League of Angels (special needs baseball) but not regular non competition baseball. I was kinda sad that they chose not to participate in fall ball but it really was a blessing in disguise. With Boogs breaking his collar bone he wouldn't have been able to finish out the season so that would have been a complete waste of money. The big thing is that we aren't constantly being rushed here and there 3 to 4 nights a week. Weeknights are always so hectic anyway with getting homework done, getting lunches ready for the next day, dinner, shower/baths, clothes picked out, story time, night night prayers etc. You know how it is! I'm sooo loving the fact that we are home at night as a family and can relax so to speak amidst all of the other things that have to be done.
Anyway, with the fall time comes the bringing out all of the decorations for the upcoming seasonal activities. I do decorate for fall but not halloween. Ok, so I do have a smiling light up pumpkin that I put on the front porch but that's only out until halloween and then it gets put up. But what I can't stand is all of the stupid scary halloween junk that people drape their properties with. I think it's ridiculous and does nothing but scare little kids. But to each his own I guess.
Anyway, back to fall....Last year when I packed up my fall wreath I realized that it was on it's last leg and would need to be re-done for this year. I mean, 10 years is long enough. The wreath itself is ok but the decorations on the wreath had faded and you could tell where the birds had been picking at the leaves and berries. It didn't look that bad but it was bad enough for me to think it needed to be redone. Soooo, last year during all of the Christmas season I kept an eye out for fall seasonal items that were on sale. I got a steal!! I bought lots of the fall foliage and things for dirt cheap. Some as cheap as 25cents!! You can really find some good stuff if you just look!
I wish I had taken a picture of the old wreath so you could see the difference but here is the wreath re-done.
I decided to keep the original bow on the wreath just because I'm lazy and don't feel like re-doing a bow right now. Yes, it is a little faded too, but it still compliments the wreath quite nicely so why mess with it? LOL!
My mom knows I like to make things like this. I have even made Christmas wreaths too, so she asked me if I would make her a cornucopia to put on her table for Fall/Thanksgiving.
Here is how it turned out. I love it!
If you are looking for some type of decoration to hang on the front door or place on your dining room table ,it's really quite easy. All you have to do is buy a wreath (if that's what you are looking for to put on the front door), look at all of the seasonal type of decorations and pick out your favorites, get a cute bow or make one with your favorite ribbon and basically just start hot gluing the pieces on your wreath. You might want to play with it first to see where you want the pieces to go. Put your bow on it and then WHALLA...you have your wreath. You can also use those hanging metal planters that you can find usually at any decorating type home store. I have used one of those for the spring time and put one of those green styrofoam floral arrangement blocks in the planter to hold the silk flowers in place in case of high winds or rain.
I'm no professional but I do enjoy making decorations like these. It just takes a little bit of imagination!
Happy Fall Ya'll!! :)
Saturday, October 9, 2010
Happy Anniversary
Eleven years ago today, I married the perfect one for me! I ♥ YOU David and am so blessed to call you my husband! Happy Anniversary baby!
Monday, October 4, 2010
Happy Birthday
HAPPY BIRTHDAY to the sweetest little boy ever!!! Our Boogie-Bears (Boogs) is turning 5 years old today!! We love you so much and are more than blessed to have you in our lives!
I usually do a slide show of each child from birth to 5 years, but unfortunately all of Boogie's birth pictures up to about 2 years old are sitting on 35mm rolls of film waiting to be developed. I did get some developed so that's what you will see. UGH, I'm so terrible! When we got our digital camera I stopped using the 35mm for obvious reasons and I just haven't ever had those rolls developed. I NEED to though and SOON!! So I'll post some of the pictures I do have and hopefully by the time he graduates kindergarten next year, I'll have those developed and can do the slide show then. Stay tuned! :)
After posting all of these, I should have just used these in a slideshow, but oh well! :)
If your speakers are turned up and you can hear the song, that is Boogie's favorite song and he knows almost all of the words. It is Keith Urban's song "Only You Could Love Me This Way". It really is so sweet to hear him sing it, so I'm dedicating that song to him today!! :)
Happy Birthday baby!!
I usually do a slide show of each child from birth to 5 years, but unfortunately all of Boogie's birth pictures up to about 2 years old are sitting on 35mm rolls of film waiting to be developed. I did get some developed so that's what you will see. UGH, I'm so terrible! When we got our digital camera I stopped using the 35mm for obvious reasons and I just haven't ever had those rolls developed. I NEED to though and SOON!! So I'll post some of the pictures I do have and hopefully by the time he graduates kindergarten next year, I'll have those developed and can do the slide show then. Stay tuned! :)
After posting all of these, I should have just used these in a slideshow, but oh well! :)
If your speakers are turned up and you can hear the song, that is Boogie's favorite song and he knows almost all of the words. It is Keith Urban's song "Only You Could Love Me This Way". It really is so sweet to hear him sing it, so I'm dedicating that song to him today!! :)
Happy Birthday baby!!
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